ALBANY, N.Y. (NEWS10) – Friday’s 98.3 TRY Social Dilemma came from Susan and is a bit complicated. It’s about dating the ex of a friend. This is what Susan wrote.
I have a dilemma Jaime.
I listen everyday and most of the time I hear good advice for the dilemmas you do so I’m hoping the same happens for me. I have a great friend group. We’ve been friends for over 20 years. I don’t want this to be a long story so I’ll cut to the dilemma part. One of my friends, Jackie, was married to a guy Brad. They divorced about 10 years ago. Jackie is happily remarried. I myself am divorced. Recently, Brad started hanging around the places that we go. Brad and I always got along, we always enjoyed each other’s company. So, here’s the dilemma. Brad and I have been dating now for about a month. I hadn’t told Jackie because at first I thought it was just going to be two old friends catching up, but now we both feel like going forward with the relationship to see where it goes. I don’t want to do anything behind Jackie’s back, but I don’t want to hurt her either. Should I tell her right away? I really don’t know how she’ll feel about it and I don’t want to ruin our friendship. I’m hoping for some of that really good advice I hear all the time during your dilemmas Jaime. I’ll be listening.
Well, that is a tough one, because I understand not wanting to hurt anyone’s feelings, but I think Susan has to fess up and tell her friend the truth. For me, honesty is the way to go when it comes to the important stuff.